Posted on June 04th, 2003 07:00 PM by admin

provided by Gregory Temkin Intour Visa Consulting

Don't let misconceptions stand in your way!

If after all you decided to thwart the search of your ideal bride to Russia, you have to be aware of some cultural differences. You may be concerned about possible homesickness after your Russian spouse will have moved to your place in the USA.

Let us start with the cultural differences. Now, don't be taken aback: the primary source of differences is you yourself! You have to realize this in order to get rid of the following typical false assumptions:

I am a very average American man, why would a handsome Russian girl care for me?

I am over fifty (or forty, or thirty), that is perhaps far too old for her…

I am not rich, so she won't want me!

I have been married before and have children, that is not what women are looking for…

I live in a very small quiet town, it isn't any thrill to any woman…

Internet introduction is gonna cost me nothing!

If you do not have those, skip this part, lucky you! If you share some of the above misconceptions, read the following both with your eyes and heart.

Russian women seek respect, understanding and economic stability. They would not be interested in marrying a jobless person, and hardly a sophomore student. However, this by no means implies that you have to be rich: a reasonably comfortable living that most steady jobs in the US provide would meet their expectations. It anyway would be a better living standard than that she might expect marrying in her homeland. Yet, you have to realize that building up a relationship with an intention to marry will cost you money. Your introduction agency is hardly not-for-profit, you will have to face expenses on e-mail (probably accepting the ladies charges after a while which would be very nice of you and appreciated), occasional gifts, visit to Russia, fiancée visa and wedding later on…

Russian women are smart and realize that what they seek seldom comes with the men in their twenties, so do not worry too much about the age difference of up to 20 years. If you are 50+ and are interested in marrying a 20-year old girls your chances become slim but not hopeless. Your looks are important to an extent. The ladies are not after a movie star, so it is not about your beauty. It is about decency - a Russian woman appreciates tidy clean appearance and elegance. Do not send her your pictures where you are unshaven or look messy - that would not be good for the relationship you might want to develop.

You being single or divorced is not that important at all. Having children is not a hindrance either. Moreover, if you were raising children as a single father, your Russian wife would wholeheartedly do her best to become a good mother to your kids. Accordingly, she would expect you to act likewise to her child if she has one. Still, Russian women believe that mutual children are the cornerstones of a strong family, so assume that your Russian wife would be eager to bear a child for you. If you do not intend to have children with her, make it clear from the very start to avoid disappointments. Also, she would probably not be happy if you maintain close relations with you ex-wife - having family dinners with your previous spouse would not be a very popular idea with your Russian wife.

Living in a small quiet town may be a disadvantage in the eyes of a young girl coming from Moscow, St. Petersburg or another major megalopolis. Since most of the brides come from smaller cities, they will fit in your environment pretty well. Of course, they would expect to have some social life as your wife, be introduced to your relatives and meet your friends, enjoy some American entertainment with you, and have an opportunity to see larger cities of the USA - that is only natural, isn't it?